Over the past few months I have been debating the possibility of expanding my professional repertoire and challenging myself with additional opportunities. Simple, huh? It is NOT at all simple. In my particular case, I needed to work out an agreement with someone willing to expose me to new circumstances and opportunities. I had to find a perfect learning partner combination.
As I went through this process, I discovered something about myself – I hate to be rejected, even in circumstances I KNOW are not right for me. With this particular opportunity, there were MANY significant factors that made it a bad learning experience – some of which I could live with and others that I stated clearly I would NOT be able to tolerate. Sadly, the things I could not tolerate heavily outweighed the things I could live with. We needed to make a mutual decision and I was very clearly leaning towards looking for other opportunities to continue to learn and grow – this one was NOT good for me.
YET, a funny thing happened – when the other individual was not interested in working with me I was not happy, maybe even a bit offended. Now, a person just said we were not a good match for extra learning and I had already come to that conclusion on my own, yet my ego was bruised….. why??????
I found the whole experience quite amusing. If I do not feel like an opportunity for growth is right, then why should I be offended when someone else draws the same conclusion. Can you relate?