358 Days ’til 40: Music as Therapy

29 Feb


I have often thought about the significant effect that music has on my life.  I am not going to spend this post musing about the benefits of playing classical symphonies to your developing child while they are in the womb.  I want to look at how music affects us as we go about our days.  Many people will use music as the soundtracks for their life, and those soundtracks change over time.  In fact, many of us equate a certain song to strong feelings about seasons in our past.  Music is very nostalgic for many of us, and can evoke an array of feelings from joy, to loss, to anger.

What DO we connect with when we listen to music?

Some individuals connect with the physical sound of the music – the harshness of the drums and screeching guitars found in hard rock or the mellow, quiet strumming found in folk music.

Others find they connect with the words – the lyrics expressing their deep-seated emotions in ways that they could never put into words.

At other times, the song or music may not be specifically chosen by an individual, but the song playing in the background of society at the time caused an association nonetheless.  For example, I was married in South Africa during the summer they hosted the world cup.  My wedding will forever be associated in my mind with the songs from the World Cup Album, that played in every location we visited in Cape Town during that entire summer.  Every time I hear Waka Waka or Viva Africa, they bring up strong emotional reminders of that special time.  These are not necessarily the songs I would have chosen to have an emotional and sentimental association with my wedding (I might have chosen something a bit more romantic) but, nonetheless, culture at the time was the dictator and those are what ended up making the cut in my personal nostalgia department.

I believe I can learn a lot about a person by the music they listen to.  I know with certainty that there is a reason my students with intense repressed anger find themselves drawn to death rock and my staff members who are young and happy are drawn to local variations of pop music.  It is no surprise that depressed individuals may find their way to sad, old folk songs or a host of ballads (particularly if they have just broken off a relationship – there are many ballads for that!)  Country music can also provide an outlet for the release of intense emotions (sadness, love, joy).

More often than not, it would seem that our moods dictate our choices in music.  The music then becomes a reflection, a mirror of what is going on within us.  The music reinforces what we feel inside.  What would happen if we changed this cause-effect relationship?  We know that many people will complain of getting headaches when they listen to death rock music.  Therefore, we see that music can easily influence our feelings and emotions (and even our physical health!)  So, what if we were to have a depressed person, after they released their emotions through sad songs, listen to happy pop music?  Is it possible that the music itself could have the therapeutic ability to assist in lifting their attitude?  What if the student drawn to death rock suddenly was asked to listen to country music?  Is it possible that this would subtly influence the deep inner rage?

Why don’t you try it in your life?  The next time you are feeling angry or down, first choose music that allows you to connect with those angry or sad feelings.  Play a few songs that express all of the pent-up emotions you cannot manage to find a way to release.  Then, choose music that you are normally drawn to when you feel most happy and alive.  See if by changing your music choices you are indeed changing the way you feel (without having to pay a huge therapy bill!)

“Music is a higher revelation than all wisdom and philosophy.”  ~ Beethoven

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98 responses to “358 Days ’til 40: Music as Therapy

  1. illusionofnormalcy

    March 4, 2012 at 23:18

    This is an interesting idea. I’ll give it a try and see what happens!

    • 400daystil40

      March 4, 2012 at 23:23

      please let me know how it goes!!!

      • illusionofnormalcy

        March 4, 2012 at 23:25

        Will do.

  2. lthibault11

    March 4, 2012 at 23:34

    I appreciate that you`ve been reading my posts! Thank you so much for the “likes”. I have been reading your posts as well and am enjoying them all. Love your thoughts on music and can relate. I can easily get lost in music and I think I would dry up and die if I didn`t have it. I find that the music I choose to lisen to tends to depend on how I am feeling at the moment. But certainly listening to music that is uplifting can quickly bring me out of a blue mood. Good therapy for sure! Thanks again.


    • 400daystil40

      March 5, 2012 at 07:57

      Thanks, Listentomethunder!
      I can really relate to your comments about music – I can also get lost in music. I think this is a good thing!

  3. Anonymous

    March 6, 2012 at 06:59

    Thanks for the like on my blog. Being twenty years older than you certainly gives me a different perspective. I get excited when I see younger people asking better questions than who won the game last night, or did you see what Lady GaGa was wearing. You pose some great questions. As a drum facilitator I try to create the space for a larger expression of who each person is, body, mind, and soul. I’m with you on music changing our moods. Your description of changing through music is very much like the taking it A.P.A.R.T. metaphor that I use. Thanks, you’ve just given me a …great… new…. idea!

    • 400daystil40

      March 6, 2012 at 22:34

      Thank you! You have some wonderful insights as well!!!

  4. Stuart Otway-Smith

    March 11, 2012 at 18:45

    It is all about the waves, sound waves, brain waves and altered trance like states are what free us from the realm of our minds, music the universal language, challenges our brains with simplex and complex mathematical calculations, rhythms and beats, music also allows us to tell stories of life and fantasy.

    Without music I don’t know how I would get through the day!

    Loving kindness, Stu.

    • 400daystil40

      March 11, 2012 at 20:59

      Thanks for your insights, Stu – I feel the same way. Music is the background of my life and it is amazing the effect it can have on all of us!

  5. Anna Hergert

    March 11, 2012 at 21:03

    Ahhh music, my last solo exhibition was inspired by the music of Cat Stevens. Listening to the lyrics, the chords from his guitar and the messages transplants me into the zone so vital for creating from the heart. Thank you for your post – it struck a chord with me!

  6. mbrayne

    March 12, 2012 at 11:07

    Thanks too for liking my own psychlotherapist blog, penned from a couple of decades further down the line as I prepare for a 6000-mile bike trip at 62 (nearly…) 40 is an amazing age, looking back. So many of my psychotherapy clients are in the run-up to it like you. Great that you’re approaching it so consciously. That’s 90% of the journey to making the second half even more worthwhile.

    One thought on this blog – music resonates powerfully with the right brain and limbic system, where we do intuition, emotion and wisdom. Brilliant chapter on it in brilliant book on the brain, and 8000 years of left vs right, The Master and his Emissary by Ian McGilchrist.

    • 400daystil40

      March 12, 2012 at 22:37

      Thanks, Mbrayne! Thank you for your insight and the referral for the book!

    • catiestewart

      March 17, 2012 at 23:31

      Hi, I have a copy of The Master and his Emissary, and thought it was a revealing book. There is an earlier book – The Origin of Consciousness in the Breakdown of the Bicameral Mind – and I like it too although I might not agree with Mr Jayne that we have been making progress! Consciousness is such a tiny part of who we are and the greatest part – the silent master- is the unconscious that controls and directs all. Hope you have a great cycle adventure – I’ve got one planned for this summer, only around Scotland and nowhere near so ambitious as yours!

      • 400daystil40

        March 17, 2012 at 23:41

        Great point about the reality that our unconscious is far more powerful than our consciousness!

  7. katrael59ganaiden

    March 12, 2012 at 19:02

    Thank you for this post as it confirms what I’ve always felt: our choices reflect the inner self.

    • 400daystil40

      March 12, 2012 at 22:09

      Thanks, katrael59ganaiden. Yes, our choices most definitely reflect our inner being!

  8. Casey B

    March 13, 2012 at 19:47


    Thanks for liking my ‘They always know they’re loved’ post. I’m going to have to try to employ this technique in coping with the upcoming anniversary of Chris’ passing. I look forward to reading more of your blog.

    Best wishes,


    • 400daystil40

      March 13, 2012 at 22:37

      You are welcome, Casey. Please let us know how the coping technique works when you reach the anniversary – thinking of you.

  9. saymber

    March 15, 2012 at 14:55

    After we lost our dear boy Sammy, 14 year old cocker spaniel last year we came home from the vet office and turned to music….Sinead O’Connors “Nothing” was the first song we listened to. Music is a part of every facet of my life and it is truly therapeutic. Music is a medicine that reaches to the very deepest core. I can’t imagine my life without it! Great article!

    • 400daystil40

      March 17, 2012 at 15:38

      I am so sorry to hear you lost your Sammy – it is so hard to lose a pet, they are part of our family. I am glad you found comfort in music.

  10. bekah

    March 16, 2012 at 01:00

    Love this! Music so definitely has the power to heal and to influence our state of mind. Also love the idea that we are not victim to our minds and moods but have power to influence them through our actions, as you’ve suggested with music! I wish you had written a post for this ‘musical affinity’ blog writing challenge I participated in a week or so ago (prompted by the blog ‘from the bungalow’), I would have loved to hear your perspective on it 🙂 Hey and thanks for visiting my blog and the like! x

    • 400daystil40

      March 17, 2012 at 15:39

      Thank you, Bekah, for your comment! I look forward to hearing more from you! It sounds like the musical affinity blog is something I need to check out!!! 🙂

  11. John Paul McNeil

    March 16, 2012 at 02:30

    I waited for awhile to respond to this blog, as music is so important to me. As a musician/songwriter for many years, I agree with all of what you said. Yet I still cannot fully fathom the process that goes on within myself, and other songwriters. It is therapy, in a deep sense, when music literally vibrates within a listener. It can be even more powerful when you create the music yourself. Most other songwriters I talk to agree, and most are also at a loss to explain how it all happens. Yet all agree that when we create music together, it is Group Therapy! Thanks for the thought (and music) provoking post.

    • 400daystil40

      March 17, 2012 at 15:40

      Thank you, John, for your comment. I agree with you completely and a few people wrote me privately to say just what you say – that when they wrote their own music it was even more therapeutic – they wrote of writing music to bring themselves out of depression, etc. Music is more powerful than many realize – it really is the background (and foreground!) to our lives! 😉

      • John Paul McNeil

        March 17, 2012 at 20:23

        I love your response about how powerful/therapeutic music is, “it really is the background (and foreground!) to our lives!” I am going to quote you on that, if that’s Ok, cause it sure is so for me. Am now writing a song called “Music Therapy”. This should be interesting…..

        • 400daystil40

          March 17, 2012 at 22:00

          Thanks, John. Of course you can quote me! I look forward to hearing your new song! Please share it when you are done! 🙂

  12. mybeautfulthings

    March 16, 2012 at 20:02

    Glad you liked my post. music is important to me too and I sing with 3 choirs. I find that singing in harmony has the most uplifting effect. It’s also true how a piece of music can take you right back to a situation. Thanks for this post that set me thinking.

    • 400daystil40

      March 17, 2012 at 15:41

      Thank you, Mybeautifulthings! Yes, I also used to sing in choirs and there is something so magical about singing in harmony with a group of people – I miss it!

  13. fallcorn1936

    March 16, 2012 at 20:33

    Music for me is different. Sometimes I want to listen. Other times I want the silence which to me, can also be music. Love your blog

    • 400daystil40

      March 17, 2012 at 15:42

      Thank you, fallcorn1936, for your post! I agree with you completely and also find that silence can be a musical solace for me! Not everyone understands this. Sometimes I stay up late until everyone in my home is asleep just so that I can enjoy the silence! 😉

  14. Grumpa Joe

    March 17, 2012 at 00:37

    I love music and become very sentimental when listening to my favorites. Age has taken its toll and now i am losing hearing. The result is that I no longer enjoy music, because i cannot hear all of it. Most of the time it sounds tinny and boisterous.
    I loved reading your analysis.

    • 400daystil40

      March 17, 2012 at 15:44

      Thank you, Grumpa Joe (love your name!) for your comment! I am so sorry to read that hearing loss has taken some of your joy of music away, though I certainly understand it. I am glass you are able to find that sentimental splice in listening to your favorites! I wish you the best!

  15. norinep

    March 17, 2012 at 15:05

    Thank you or visiting my blog and liking my latest post. I have always loved music and been influenced by it. Some songs can make me cry in the middle of what I thought was a very happy day. Some songs can relax me into beautiful slumber. I enjoy all genres, but am drawn the most to classical and soft jazz. I can’t listen to some types at all. I do believe that music has a profound influence on our emotions.

    • 400daystil40

      March 17, 2012 at 15:47

      Thank you, Norinep, for your comment! I have had similar experiences as you where I have suddenly become happy or sad depending on music. This is such a good example of how music is related to our emotions and often certain time periods or events in our life! 😉

  16. catiestewart

    March 17, 2012 at 23:49

    My beloved greyhound, Skye, passed away last December. I played John Tavener’s ‘The Protecting Veil’ over and over and wept and wept .. it was very good for me. I still miss her every day, but feel positively about her – and grateful that through her I had yet another opportunity to love. Music matters!

    • 400daystil40

      March 17, 2012 at 23:55

      So sorry for your loss – yes, I have also found music was very good for me when it helped to facilitate the release of sorrow. Music is so therapeutic.

  17. Steven

    March 18, 2012 at 15:24

    Hi there. Thanks for stopping by my blog and “liking” my book review of Descartes’ Error. I read the above blog post, and I certainly agree that music can affect our emotions. A listener will obviously have to be “involved” in the music; there is passive listening and then there is engaged listening. Music is always experienced in a situational context, and this plays a big part in how we respond. I have been in a psychiatric hospital where there were music therapy sessions for patients, and it was always a welcome activity. Best wishes, Steven

    • 400daystil40

      March 18, 2012 at 16:16

      Thank you, Steven, for your thoughts. Yes, you are so correct that music is part of a situational context – and that context, of course, it what links it to the deep emotions we feel. I like how you mention passive and engaged listening – I was never able to listen to music while studying because I am always an engaged listener and could never manage to get any studying done as I could not passively have the music in the background!!! 😉

  18. ihaveishoes

    March 18, 2012 at 22:32

    Thank you for liking my post, and thanks for this post. Makes a lot of sense.

  19. honestgoodadvice

    March 19, 2012 at 03:00

    I have always used music to feel and deal with emotions. It’s also amazing how hearing a song or smelling a certain smell can take you right back to that very moment 🙂

    • 400daystil40

      March 19, 2012 at 07:29

      Yes, Honestgoodadvice! Smells can do the same thing, can’t they? Thanks for your comment!!! 🙂

  20. Mayene Design

    March 19, 2012 at 18:39

    I totally agree; great post! As some who studied both design and music in college, they both have therapeutic effects when needed. Of course, I have my days where I can’t go without analyzing bits and pieces of music when listening to classical recordings or out to see a live orchestra, but in the end, it’s necessary for music to be present.

    • 400daystil40

      March 19, 2012 at 22:14

      Thanks, Mayene Design! Great point that design can also have therapeutic benefits! And, yes, sometimes when you study and pick apart something like music, it becomes more challenging to just allow yourself to experience it authentically with your feelings in the moment – very easy to pick up those analytical tools! 🙂

  21. fluffyphoton

    March 20, 2012 at 16:57

    Great post! Music help me connect with memories too. From my personal experience, all our five senses are capable of triggering the association. For me, music has the particularity of being the most direct, and the smell is the most subtle. (cf. Ratatouille, a Disney animation, shows the association of taste with memory in the final scene).

    • 400daystil40

      March 20, 2012 at 21:45

      Thank you, Fluffyphoton (great name!) Yes, you are correct, every sense of ours can trigger memories, feelings and associations. My girls and I loved Ratatouille! What a great visual of what you are describing! 🙂

  22. spankingbeaarthur

    March 20, 2012 at 18:19

    I actually do this. It works well. 🙂

    • 400daystil40

      March 20, 2012 at 21:48

      Thanks! I am glad these things work for you – nice to know which readers out there fully understand 🙂

  23. Choc Chip Uru

    March 21, 2012 at 07:24

    This is a great idea – I am sure it will help me 😀
    Thank you!

    Choc Chip Uru

  24. kathryningrid

    March 21, 2012 at 20:34

    I think this is a brilliant idea: directed music therapy we can apply ourselves!

    • 400daystil40

      March 21, 2012 at 22:26

      Thanks, Kathyingrid! Yes, self-therapy is great (and cost-effective!!!!) 🙂 🙂

  25. arkenaten

    March 21, 2012 at 20:40

    Well, right now I’m listening to Audioslave. But in a bit I’m going to put on some Steely Dan then after a bit of Piazolla and to top it off before turning in to watch a movie I fancy giving Hendix’ Band of Gypsys a whirl.
    My mood seems okay, too!
    Good post.

    • 400daystil40

      March 21, 2012 at 22:44

      Thank you, arkenaten!!! I wonder what would happen if you listened to the same things when your mood was not okay, would it improve your mood??? 😉

  26. fgassette

    March 23, 2012 at 20:51

    I love music and I agree you can tell a lt about a person by what they listen to. Thank you for stopping by my blog. I hope you come by again.


    • 400daystil40

      March 23, 2012 at 23:52

      Thanks so much and I am so glad you stopped by my blog as well! I look forward to visiting yours again!

  27. beatrix mana

    March 23, 2012 at 21:20

    I agree music can change your emotions. I have done this for years. I have even tried it on my children when they were young and now my grandchildren. My daughters wedding is a unique example. People were all kond of shy to mingle at first so we switched the music for awhile to Slovak folk music and had the crowd do different dances after awhile people were laughing and talking to one another. Thanks for the post.

    • 400daystil40

      March 23, 2012 at 23:45

      Thanks for your example of real life application of this concept! Hmmm… I think I need to try this more with my own children!!! 🙂

  28. Amy Karon

    March 24, 2012 at 21:42

    Nice post! Have you read Oliver Sach’s book ‘Musicophilia’? Changed the way I think about music and its ability to affect my mood. I like your blog!

    • 400daystil40

      March 24, 2012 at 21:47

      Thanks for your comment, Amy! I have not read that book, but plan to check it out now! Thank you for telling me about it 🙂

  29. dustinandbradenblog

    March 25, 2012 at 22:37

    very great post about music I’ve totally noticed we can alter our moods based on the music we listen to

    • 400daystil40

      March 25, 2012 at 22:43

      Thank you, Dustin and Braden – YES it is amazing how much music alters our moods!!!

  30. basildonkitchens

    March 26, 2012 at 20:49

    I have long thought about the effects of music on our lives – many a time I hear a wisp of a song and it takes me back to another time and place – sometimes good and sometimes not so good. You have nailed this on the head!

    I am going through some tough times right now, dealing with my mother’s courageous fight with cancer. During this time I have to drive long distances and have been using music to bring me up and ready for the “cheer-leader” roll when taking mom through all the various appointments and then also to bring be back up when I head back down the highway going home to soothe my empty sad feelings.

    Love your blog – I feel like I am walking right along with you in this journey and looking within myself as well. Thank you 🙂

    • 400daystil40

      March 26, 2012 at 21:43

      Thanks, Basildonkitchens! I so appreciate your comment. I also use music to get through tough times…. and what a good way to manage long car rides. I am so sorry to hear that your mom has cancer, it is never easy to watch our parents get sick. I hope you are able to find comfort and solace in music in the midst of this very touch time. Thank you for visiting and I hope you come again. 🙂

  31. John Paul McNeil

    March 26, 2012 at 21:55

    Basildon, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your mother. Perhaps writing your own thoughts and feeling in poetry form might help. A song is but a poem put to music. You could try that if you play an instrument. If not, play an already recorded instrumental track, and speak (or sing, Imagine that!) the words. Writing, then singing, your own song, is music therapy to the max.

  32. Fathead Follies

    March 27, 2012 at 15:57

    I couldn’t agree more.

  33. Waldo "Wally" Tomosky

    March 27, 2012 at 19:08

    This post made me really think about it. I am going to give it a try! Thanks. Now the only thing I have to do is try to remember to try it when I am in a strange mood.
    Another excercise is writing and creating with music. You may like this excercise that helped me through a tough day.

    Thanks for your wise words and for visiting my blogs and posts.

    • 400daystil40

      March 27, 2012 at 22:58

      Thank you so much, Wally – and thank you for visiting my blog and pointing the readers here to this post! 🙂

  34. James Iremonger

    March 27, 2012 at 20:48

    I enjoyed reading this post, thank you.

    There’s some interesting material out there on the interaction of music and the brain, and in particular, a book you may be interested called ‘This Is Your Brain on Music’ in by Daniel Levitin.

    My only (small) issue with your article is the slight simplification that sad music makes you sad and happy music makes you happy. Although I can see your logic here, I’m not sure it’s so clear cut – I would argue that it’s more to do with listening to music you ‘like’. Listening to a favourite piece of music activates pleasure centres in the brain. I happen to like some death metal music, and although superficially it might seem full of negative emotion, the fact that I enjoy the music sonically and can appreciate it’s beauty and complexity means that the overwhelming effect on my mood is positive. Having said that, I definitely wouldn’t listen to it with a headache!

    Look forward to reading more of your interesting posts 🙂

    • 400daystil40

      March 27, 2012 at 22:51

      Thank you, James! Yes, I love it when the blog readers point me to new books! I will have to check out the book you mention. You bring up an interesting point when you quote my writing about sad music making you sad and vise versa. It is a good point that, for some people, seemingly negative music can have positive effects on them. Bit, as you say, all in the right context, as it would not be good for a headache! An interesting note (no pun intended) is that when I worked with middle school students about 15 years ago we analyzed the music they were listening to (death rock/ heavy metal). Over the course of the unit the kids themselves decided that they really were not encouraged in their lives by the meaning of the lyrics and the words and they felt that perhaps the music was altering their moods in negative ways…. so I suppose every person is different in this area! Thank you for your great comment and I hope you visit again! 🙂

      • John Paul McNeil

        March 28, 2012 at 00:51

        Good dialogue going on here. So here’s my two (or three) cents (or is it sense? Hope so). I feel both of you are correct. Some folks (verbal/language ones) will get the lyrics “imbedded” more, ie with more emotional impact. Others (more “sound/vibration” types) like James, got it/held it more sonically as he says. And of course, various combinations of both. What to me becomes even more fascinating (and empowering), is to create one’s own lyrics and music. If you think you “can’t” do that (which you can), start with one or the other (lyrics or music) that is more accessable to you, and use someone elses for the other part. Then, as you practice and become more confident, both. Music Therapy, created by, epressed by, heard by, enriched by and for yourself.

        • 400daystil40

          March 28, 2012 at 08:07

          Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this too, John. I always appreciate your perspective! 🙂 I do love your important point about creating our own lyrics and music!

  35. macmamava

    March 28, 2012 at 19:55

    Thank you for the “like” on my post. I’ve always had a deep connection to music throughtout my life. I might not be able to recall events that happend at a certain age, but I can remember how old I was when a particular song came out and how it made me feel. Keep up the good work!

    • 400daystil40

      March 28, 2012 at 22:41

      Thank you! I have similar connections with music, it is amazing how powerful that can be when the songs are played now!

  36. Anonymous

    March 28, 2012 at 20:51

    Your perspectives were spot on as far as my impressions and personalt perceptions. I have been a long time listener to one particular singer, songwriter, environmental humanist. Much the same in age it was often like receiving a personal letter from the bother I never had. We shared much, but we also developed a deeper understandng of how people experience life. The way things are is often what I need to experience. Music is a bg part of that either playedi n my head, my heart or on the sound system. Thanks for stopping by my blog.

    • 400daystil40

      March 28, 2012 at 22:34

      Thank you so much! Thank you for stopping by my blog too!

  37. Margaret L. Been

    March 29, 2012 at 20:02

    I agree with you and Beethoven. The best international language, with something for every person and every time of life.

    I’ve often thought of how my babies loved to be rocked and sung to.

    • 400daystil40

      March 29, 2012 at 22:57

      Thanks for your great comment! Yes, my girls also loved to be rocked, sung to and held… now they are children who sing in the shower and at other various times! 🙂

  38. janesbooks2011

    March 31, 2012 at 13:19

    Hey – thanks for calling by my Blog – nice to meet you 🙂

    Your post strikes a chord with me , as it fits with a theory of mine. If I play ‘happy / feelgood’ music, it lifts my mood no end. When I exercise, I listen to lively, upbeat stuff. If I want to chill out, I listen to mellow tunez. Music is always there.

    Great post 🙂

  39. hopewinter

    April 1, 2012 at 01:11

    Great post! If you figure out life before you hit 40, please tell those following you the secret, then sell it to the rest of the world!
    Music might be a sort of time travel…I hear songs I listened to when I was younger and it takes me back to those times, both good and bad aspects of my life are re-lived to some degree. It reinforces in me that I want to enhance the good and not go back to the bad places I was in. It is good to have a reminder every now and then.

    • 400daystil40

      April 1, 2012 at 12:35

      I will! Great point about how music from the past can provoke feelings that remind us how far we have come.

  40. doubleinvert

    April 7, 2012 at 06:39

    I’d have to say that music is my drug of choice. And, my daughter is currently studying at university to be a music therapist.

    • 400daystil40

      April 8, 2012 at 05:28

      Wow, that is wonderful! I wish your daughter the best!

  41. Lani Longshore

    April 12, 2012 at 00:15

    Lately I’ve been listening to bagpipes on the highway, especially the marches. Whether this is making me more or less susceptible to road rage I don’t know. I’m hoping that just imagining a regiment of Scots guards running down the person who cuts me off will be enough to let me shake off the annoyance.

  42. feminin1

    April 14, 2012 at 09:18

    Even in the moment that you shovel money into a therapist’s pocket, you, yourself become the therapist. Music is a wonderful outlet and can definitely shape mood and thought and in a perfect world, it would negate what causes pain and be a source of happiness; but in this world, it isn’t the culmination of outside forces that ultimitely give us peace and understanding.
    When my fortieth birthday came, I had the same pangs of want. I felt spiritually devoid of happiness and could only control my path by choices I made on an intellectual plane. It was as if I feared that what I had wasn’t enough. I have found in the last thirteen years since, that what I felt was crisis was in fact a metamorphis and that the pain of moving from my chrysalis and spreading wings came from an inner change in how I perceived myself and it’s a settling but not a stagnant acceptance or others perceptions, it comes from stripping away what walls us in. I wanted to know my direction, to drive deeper into that place that would bring me puriity in thought and action. I learned though, it is process, a vulnerability, a faith, a road that changes us only if we go back and unravel the ropes that steal away our innocence. It’s a ripple effect if we can reach that place, because there, is the answer to reaching those depths that are longed for.

    • 400daystil40

      April 14, 2012 at 23:20

      You are so very right….. we often do have to visit our past in order to progress into our future.

  43. Edward Saugstad

    April 14, 2012 at 22:21

    “Music is a higher revelation than all wisdom and philosophy.” Amen to that! 🙂

  44. thetomatoesdiary

    April 17, 2012 at 03:54

    One of the first songs I downloaded onto my new iPad is “Mame”, from the musical of the same name. It’s my personal picker-upper song, and works like no other. You might wan’t to try it. By the way, thank you very much for visiting my blog “The Tomatoes Diary” yesterday.

    • 400daystil40

      April 17, 2012 at 08:51

      Thanks! And thank you for visiting my blog! 🙂

  45. RoboticRAven

    January 16, 2013 at 21:39

    You posted this a long time ago, but I’ve just found it, so I’ll comment even though it’s a little late.
    As a musician, I obviously think that music is one of the most important things in my life. I think I’d be a totally different person without it. I attended one of the top music therapy schools in the country during graduate school, and even though I wasn’t in music therapy myself, I could really see how beneficial it is. I have friends who worked with autistic children and used music to help them communicate. While listening and doing our own music “therapy” on ourselves is definitely helpful to our moods, it goes so much further than that. Music is really so amazing.

    • 400daystil40

      January 16, 2013 at 23:36

      I am so glad you found this post – it is one of my favorites! I agree with you completely!

  46. Website

    June 8, 2013 at 19:01

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