Do you ever wonder how some people do it? How they seem to radiate a love, joy, and kindness 24/7. They always seem to have a smile on their face, are always positive, cheering people up, patting individuals on the back, offering hugs and condolences. Their cups are always half full.
I greatly admire these individuals and often question what molded them. Sometimes I am even judgmental…… actually, sometimes I am VERY judgmental of people with this personality type. Thoughts that can go through my head include:
- They are not REALLY happy, they are repressing all sorts of negative feelings
- They are completely out of touch with reality
- Did they grow up in a vacuum? Who can be that happy, were they sheltered and had no pain in their life?
- Are they on drugs?
- Who are they trying to impress?
- They are running away from their true feelings and one day everything will come crashing down
Then, I take a step back from my judgement and I wonder if my judgement is just that, judgement. Is it possible that there may actually be authentically happy/ joyful people in this world? Could it be that these individuals have risen to a level of self-realization that is far superior to my own? Perhaps they are the ones who truly “get” life, and it is me who is not with the program. Maybe I am the problem. Me, with my complaining, frustration, grumpiness, pessimism. I have the problem – and the problem is that I am not that person who radiates joy and love. If I really did some deep soul-searching and was fully honest I would also have to admit that I am jealous – I am IMMENSELY jealous of these people. I suppose deep down I want to be these people. I want my community to see me and feel love and joy.
And then reality sets in and I realize that the reason I do not radiate love and joy is that I am not choosing to radiate love and joy. It is MY choice. I can live my life in an authentic way which focuses on the beauty around me, and there is beauty in many things. I just have to make the choice to see it. As I sit here typing I see a warm fire, a snuggling kitty and my partner sound asleep. My life is good and these things bring a smile. Perhaps if I remind myself of this enough the smiles will come more frequently and my way of life will also be to radiate joy and love.
Today, 350 days ’til 40, I hope to continually remind myself of the wonderful things life has to offer me. I will look at all the small things around me that really do bring joy – my environment radiates joy. I can draw from that and be radiant myself.