We all have experienced the pain of knowing that we missed an opportunity to tell someone how much they mean to us, how much we love and adore them, how much of a blessing their presence has been in our lives. When we miss these opportunities, we often have huge regrets. These regrets often are characterized by the “if onlys”.
“If only I had known there was so little time.”
“If only I had put myself aside for her”
“If only I had called, even though it means losing sleep”
Five weeks ago my great-aunt turned 90. A reasonably healthy woman, her eyes always show her wisdom, wit and humor. I did not call on her birthday, even though I had every intention to. I also never called her to ask her about our family history, something else I really wanted to know. Two nights ago she went into the hospital feeling sick and the next morning she died. It was that quick…… and the regret sets in. If only I had known her days were limited, I would have reached out……. if only I had known she was going to die, I would have let her know how much I love her and what an honor it was to have her in my life. If only I had known I would have asked her to share all of her knowledge about our family history….. BUT I did not know, and it is now too late. The legacy of an amazing woman is all that is left.
I realize that part of the problem with what happened is that I took life for granted. We do not really want to believe that the people we love will drift away. You or your friend could die tomorrow – spend each day with the understanding that it could be your last. Say what you mean and feel and let those around you know how much you love and appreciate them. Most people do not express a concern that they reach out too much…. and too much is ALWAYS better than too little.
Aunt Lil, RIP