Sometimes the best way to get through today is to focus on tomorrow. Everyone encounters tough times in their lives. These tough times can be caused by a variety of circumstances: death of a loved one, loss of a job, loss of a friendship, divorce, struggles with addiction, or financial strain. These are all real stressors that can cause deep depression and can make today seem too difficult to bear. These circumstances can make you question if it is worth it to focus on taking another breath. Most people have asked themselves this question at some point in their lives. It is normal to ask. It is also normal to try to work to relieve the feelings of despair by reaching for any glimpse of hope that may exist, no matter how small that hope may be.
It may be that today is indeed too difficult. In those moments, it is important to remind yourself that we all have a promise of tomorrow. Tomorrow may not be perfect, and it may not see the troubles of today disappear, but if tomorrow you are one day further away from the incident that caused you pain, or one day closer to taking the steps necessary to beat the demons that live within, then tomorrow will be a good day.
Finding hope in tomorrow means working to focus on the good things in your life, even when the good is overshadowed by immense pain. What good things can we acknowledge when it feels as though life is caving in on top of us?
- A warm shower
- A hot cup of coffee
- The purr of a cat or the loving kisses of a dog
- A child saying “I love you”
- The sun shining
- Stars in the sky
- Blooming flowers
- A cool breeze on a hot day
- A child laughing
- Someone serving you a hot meal
Whether you live in a mansion or a shelter, you can focus on your pain, or you can focus on the hope of tomorrow. Your situation may not change overnight, but your reaction to your situation may. Slowly, day by day, hope can grow in your heart.
If you are struggling to find hope for tomorrow and you are questioning how you are going to go on, please reach out for help. The US National Suicide Prevention hotline number is: 1-800-273-TALK. It is okay to reach out, there is nothing to be ashamed of – they WANT to talk to you. You can also chat with them via the internet by going to their website at: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.
You are worth it. If you cannot convince yourself that you are worth it, believe those around you. You ARE worth it.
Today, 318 days ’til 40, I will strive to remind myself that no matter how desperate I feel, no matter how hopeless the situation I am in may seem, there is ALWAYS the promise of tomorrow.
My wish is for many brighter tomorrows for us all.