At some point in our lives, I think we have all heard the saying that we are NOT supposed to yell “FIRE” in a crowded theatre. In fact, the origin of this comes from a court case that questioned the parameters of freedom of speech. In this case, it was argued that a person could not yell “FIRE” in a crowded theatre if there was not a fire. That, although there is indeed a protection of freedom of speech in the USA, the health and safety of individuals supersedes those rights.
I do not have a large laundry list of pet peeves, but there are indeed a few things that drive me crazy. One of these things is people crying “WOLF”. I have come to realize in my almost old age that I really do not enjoy drama or people in my life who seem to consistently breed drama. It appears that it is always the same people who are telling me about horrible situations they are facing or warning me about some impending calamity of sorts. While these individuals want to be comforted, I do not believe they really want the chaos to end. They like crying wolf, in fact I would venture to say that they LOVE crying wold – they THRIVE on the attention they receive.
I have known and worked with many individuals who seem to relish in their victim roles. They are constantly telling others how miserable they are because they always get the short end of the stick, are treated unfairly, etc. What I find so interesting about the individuals I know who cry “wolf” and claim victim, is that they cannot step back and see the larger picture. The larger picture is that most people do not feel victimized to the same degree and it appears the only correlation between victimization is the person who claims to be a victim…. in other words, they could play some part in the larger picture of their miserable life. While they do not really want to believe it, they are most likely creating to and exacerbating their own misery. My advice when you encounter someone like this who is in complete denial??? RUN LIKE MAD!!!
I believe that life is too short to waste it on individuals who are not healthy (or at least not willing to try to get healthy). We can be victims and focus on the negative, or we can find the wonderful things that are happening around us and focus on the beauty and kindness of our world. We can cry “wolf” of we can scream, “thank you!”
I personally prefer to choose the path of gratitude.
Today, 287 days ’til 40, I will challenge myself to keep my motives and my feelings in check. I will make sure that I am focusing on all the wonderful things in the world that surrounds me.