Today I was thinking about Facebook…. not because it just started selling stock and not because there is already a lawsuit by shareholders….. no, I was thinking of Facebook just because. I was wondering whether Facebook is a vehicle for fanaticism, fiasco or fun……
As I thought about this more, I began to conclude that Facebook is indeed the vehicle for all of the above.
1. Fanaticism. Okay, when a person stops their wedding ceremony to update their profile to say they are married (yes, we have all seen the videos of the groom doing this IN THE MIDDLE OF THE CEREMONY) that is going TOO far – just too far. Facebook does not need to be connected on some sort of cyberspace IV drip….. disconnect, at least for your wedding! Heaven help your new spouse if Facebook came into the bedroom that night! I have also seen multiple labor and post-birth status updates… again… if you are in labor, perhaps, just perhaps, you should focus on the fact that you have a thing the size of a watermelon being pushed out of your body. Ask for an epidural, not a status update!
2. Fiasco. To me the biggest Facebook fiascos are those individuals who start to display parts of their personal life inappropriately ALL over Facebook. I do NOT want to know about you and your ex. I do not want to know that you found out who fathered your child. I do not want to know who cheated on you, who is a scum or that you were screaming at your boyfriend at 4 a.m. And I REALLY do not want to see you screaming at your boyfriend at 4 a.m. on his Facebook page. WAY TOO MUCH INFORMATION. Please, have some decency and self-respect and work out your issues the old-fashioned way – in person, over the telephone or via snail mail.
3. Fun. Yes, Facebook can be a lot of fun! I have posted old photos of friends, reconnected with wonderful people and made new friends. I get to see my friend’s children and my girls get to see photos of their cousins. It has been a gift in this area.
Today, 273 days ’til 40, I will remember that there are many things that can be used constructively or destructively. I plan to use Facebook in a constructive way and hope to teach my daughters to do the same. As for those who do not do that, please at least do us the favor of taking your personal lives (the TMI parts) off Facebook.