135 Days ’til 40: People are SOOO Human!

09 Oct

Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I’m not sure about the former. ~ Albert Einstein

To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting. ~ e.e. cummings

Never underestimate the power of human stupidity. ~ Robert A. Heinlein

I see myself as an intelligent, sensitive human, with the soul of a clown which forces me to blow it at the most important moments. ~ Jim Morrison

A week ago I made my boss laugh with a profound quote (okay, not really so profound, which is probably what sparked the laughter).  I said, “Ugh.  People….. they are so human!”

Of course, the quote does not mean much unless you get the context.  The bottom line is, people can be challenging.  They can surprise you, they can delight you, they can love you, they can motivate and encourage you.  People can also frustrate you, infuriate you, and challenge you.  This is what makes being in a people profession so wonderful, and so exhausting – and sometimes so wonderfully exhausting!  We never know what we are going to get, but we do know that people, even the ones we believe we can rely on, are actually not fully predictable.  Why?  Because we are all human.

I like to think I am a pretty level-headed person that can be relied upon at all times to make decent decisions.  I also believe I have a pretty long fuse, it takes a lot to anger me.  However, two years ago – after my father died – my fuse was at an all-time short length.  Incidents that usually did not get me angry did get me angry…. normally I was much more patient – but, I too (sadly) am as human as the rest of us and in those moments of stress in my own life I found that I did not have the tolerance I normally have.

Because we live and work and interact with many different people on a daily basis, we are often up against the stressors in their lives and our own.  I see this on a daily basis – I work with a wonderful group of individuals – many of them.  And a handful of these people are always under stress (not the same people, it rotates).  There are always people with health issues, or work stressors, or ill parents.  I have learned that, if I can extend empathy to people in these moments, I am less likely to fall victim to their short fuses due to their life circumstances.

Perhaps understanding that people are indeed so very human affords us the ability to reach out as individuals and take their hand and build bridges of deeper human understanding – person to person.

Today, 135 day ’til 40, I seek to remind myself that, when uncomfortable reactions happen between myself and another person, I must keep in mind that there may be things in that person’s life I am unaware of.  The interaction may be a culmination of circumstances, and perhaps not directly about the person or about me.  If I can step back and understand this, then I can also distance myself enough to try to help diffuse a distressing moment.



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14 responses to “135 Days ’til 40: People are SOOO Human!

  1. transitionstande

    October 9, 2012 at 18:08

    So true and very well put. If only more people would realise this, the world would be a far happier place.

    • 400daystil40

      October 9, 2012 at 18:23

      Thanks so much – yes, I do wish more people would understand this – so simple, yet so difficult…

  2. rachturner

    October 9, 2012 at 21:46

    Wise words from someone who’s not even 40 yet! 😉

  3. Another Thousand Words

    October 10, 2012 at 00:03

    Even when we say “I know you!”, we truly do not know that person, 400…and many are unwilling to discuss the cause of their stress, preferring to keep it inside (harmful? Yes!). Showing empathy (as opposed to sympathy) is the best means of allowing them to vent if they so choose.

    Your wisdom is amazing, as you get closer to the “40” so-called ‘turning point’!

    • 400daystil40

      October 10, 2012 at 23:25

      Very true! Sometimes I wonder if we ever really know a person… Thanks for the compliment re: wisdom… it is a long growing process!

  4. appletonavenue

    October 10, 2012 at 04:07

    Words to live by.

  5. 1smiles

    October 10, 2012 at 15:36

    I began a new job a few weeks ago. A new group of coworkers and a new skill set to acquire. I had my own level of stress as I began my training. Suddenly, one of the women training me, lashed out unfairly in my direction. I stepped to the left to avoid her sharp words. I knew of some stressors she was dealing with as well, so I gently reminded her of the words she had spoken and how they had affected me as the ‘new girl’. I was trusting her knowledge and judgement until I had acquired skills of my own to depend on.
    I don’t like the feeling of incompetence before I have the skills I need. On this particular day, it put me in a vulnerable position. All I could do was give it my best to not cause further harm while my coworker was having a struggle of her own.

    • 400daystil40

      October 10, 2012 at 23:18

      Wow, good for you to stand up for yourself and let the woman know how her words and actions affected you!!! 🙂

  6. Anonymous

    October 12, 2012 at 12:58

    I look forward to your b’day countdown daily! Keep up the good work.

    • 400daystil40

      October 13, 2012 at 00:55

      Thank you so much for your kind words! 🙂

  7. simon7banks

    October 12, 2012 at 13:57

    They were laughing because they had not realised you had been excluded from the Secret which the authorities are trying to conceal. People are not human. They are aliens from…AAAAAAAARGH!


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