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2 Days ’til 40: 40 Favorite Posts from My 400 Days ’til 40 Journey

I must say that it was much easier to choose 40 photos than to choose 40 posts!  One of the fun things about this particular journey is that I allowed myself to write (or post photos) about whatever I felt on any particular day.  As a result, I have a wide array of followers who each connect in different ways to what I write – this has been amazing.  I imagine that in the future, as I become a bit more focused, I may have a less diverse group of readers, though I hope not!

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Here is my top 40 list of posts, hopefully as eclectic as my readers are.  Some I chose because of the importance of the content, some because they make me laugh (yes, I realize that I have a weird sense of humor that others do not always appreciate) and some because I like the way the words flow. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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236 Days ’til 40: In a Crowd, But All Alone

Friendship needs no words – it is solitude delivered from the anguish of loneliness. ~ Dag Hammarskjold

Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty. ~ Mother Teresa

Loneliness is about the scariest thing out there. ~ Joss Whedon Read the rest of this entry »

 

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330 Days ’til 40: Wants Versus NEEDS

Can anything be so elegant as to have few wants, and to serve them one’s self?

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Earth provides enough to satisfy every man’s need, but not every man’s greed.

~ Mahatma Gandhi Read the rest of this entry »

 

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349 Days ’til 40: Missed Opportunities and Regrets

We all have experienced the pain of knowing that we missed an opportunity to tell someone how much they mean to us, how much we love and adore them, how much of a blessing their presence has been in our lives.  When we miss these opportunities, we often have huge regrets.  These regrets often are characterized by the “if onlys”.

“If only I had known there was so little time.”

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372 Days ’til 40: Finding TIME

Have you ever felt like finding time was akin to playing hide and seek?  The time being hidden, and you – you are the person frantically scurrying around attempting to find it.

Time is one of those things that seems to slip away without notice.  BUT when it is gone we do notice, often with a multitude of regret that we let it get away.

The key to finding time is careful, honest analysis of the current time allocations in your life followed by a soul-searching scrutinization of your values and priorities.

What are some of the biggest “time suckers” today?  I will list a few (please feel free to add to this list by commenting on this post).

1.  Internet (And specifically:  Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, etc.).

2.  Television (or various forms of video-based media watching).

3.  Sleeping.

4.  Snacking (often combined with television viewing).

5.  Procrastination (I am often amazed at how many people can stare blankly at a computer screen for hours because they do not know what to say and are afraid to get started).

None of the above are, in and of themselves, bad activities.  They only become bad when they infringe on the time that should be devoted to alternate activities.

Who and what are you neglecting when you are hooked on the internet or television???

1.  Your children.

2.  Housework.

3.  Work productivity.

4.  Physical exercise and health.

5.  Your partner.

6.  Your parents.

It has been very hard for me to come to the conclusion that I cannot fit everything I want into every day.  It was also hard for me to prioritize activities.  I had no choice, there was not enough time.  I love to knit – LOVE to knit, but I also really needed to start exercising again.  With a limited amount of down time between work and bed (after kids are fed, lunches packed, dinner made, etc.) I had no choice but to give up one activity for another.  I gave up my hour of nightly knitting for an hour of exercising.  (Yes, I DID try to do them simultaneously, but unfortunately that did not work out well for me!)  There was a bit of a trade-off.  I set up my stationary bicycle near my television – this allows me to have free moments of mind-wasting television coupled with my devoted exercise time.  I pass the time with a funny sit-com while simultaneously improving my health.  This is also good for me because I need something to distract me from the exercise itself!  I exercise because it is healthy, but that does not mean I always enjoy it!

How can you analyze your time and make changes that are better for you?  Do you have any idea how many hours you lose each day?

1.  Make a chart for the day.  Divide the chart into half hour blocks.  Write down everything you do throughout the day.  Repeat this for 3-5 days.

2.  Analyze the chart – are there patterns?  Notice what takes the most of your time and what takes the least.  Are your children getting a majority of your time and attention, or is it being funneled to Facebook?

3.  MAKE CHANGES.  As you analyze your priorities, give yourself permission to adjust your schedule and attempt to create a daily routine that is more in line with your personal life goals and priorities.

4.  Constantly Re-evaluate.  In order to truly keep watch of your precious time, you must constantly re-evaluate and re-analyze where your time is going.  I would recommend repeating this process 2-4 times a year (if you have the time to!!!)  This will allow you to really keep track of your shifting priorities over time.

As the years go by our priorities and time allocations towards certain activities change.  Not long ago there was no Facebook, and now it is one of the single largest time guzzlers in the world.  Also, as your life changes, your ability to be flexible with your time may change.  A new baby or even a toddler requires a tremendous amount of time with hands-on parenting.  As children get older they are more independent and when they are capable of bathing themselves, cleaning their own rooms, etc., it allows you to divert that time elsewhere.

If you are honest with yourself you can work to gain back the many hours you are losing.  When you find the time, drop me a note and let me know how it is working out for you.

At 372 days until 40 I remind myself once again that time is one of the most valuable resources I have and I must guard it carefully.

~400daystil40

 

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383 Days ’til 40: Coping with Chaos

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Have you ever seen those people who seem to live from crisis to crisis?  Always the victim, and seeming to thrive on the attention they receive from the chaos that swarms around them like a tornado.  Today I want to focus on what we can do when we encounter these people (for my theory of why they are the way they are see: https://400daystil40.wordpress.com/2012/01/24/394-days-til-40/ ) Read the rest of this entry »

 

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384 Days ’til 40: The Cat’s WHISKERS

Yesterday we discovered that our youngest believes she is now a cat stylist.  She is 8 and seems to struggle a bit (okay, A LOT) with impulse control.  Her latest act involved two of our poor cats, a pair of scissors and whiskers.  Thankfully for the cats, they were not all cut off, but they were cut short enough that there will be issues for these poor cats until they grow back.

These are those frustrating moments in parenting when you do not always know what to do.  First of all, the poor cats look hilarious.  Second, the whole situation is a bit comical (though not for our cats).  Third, she lacks impulse control – she has ZERO, she was not on medication at the time this occurred – it was not her fault.  She really could not control herself.  That said, there needs to be a consequence, even if the end result is that the consequence has no affect on future cat torturing behavior.

This is poor Delilah, with a little less facial hair.

These are Gracie’s shorter whiskers.

They will both live, and we have also decided to let our youngest live.  My partner came up with the best consequence we could think of – research on the importance of whiskers and their function and purpose, coupled with an apology letter to the cats (never mind that the cats cannot read).  Maybe we should have grounded her until the whiskers grew back????

I am not sure she will have the ability to generalize this information to future situations in which her impulse to make a bad choice overrides her brain’s ability to question how wise her choices are.  That remains to be seen and is a scary part of parenthood.

In the meantime, I hope the whiskers grow back soon.

MEOW!

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Posted by on February 3, 2012 in ADD, ADHD, Children, Parenting, Pets

 

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