Today I went to a wedding that had an unusual guest…. a chicken. I was fairly certain that it was not actually on the guest list, but the little bird made her presence quite known. Among other things, she pecked the feet of the waiters and waitresses and even pecked my partner’s foot while I took the above photo!
As it happens, we have been to a lot of weddings lately. I often find weddings to be so interesting. I love the concept of declaring your love for another person in front of supportive friends and family, yet it seems like the ceremonies have gotten out of hand. I know many individuals who have argued with their parents as they did NOT want their parents to invite their parent’s friends and colleagues to their wedding – they only wanted guests connected to them that they knew. This makes sense to me.
I have told many brides that their wedding planning stress levels are reduced when they are able to understand that the wedding is really not for the bride, but for everyone else. These run away days have moved past a love declaration to family needs for parties, and often a woman’s need to play out her childhood fantasy of being a princess for a day.
My partner and I were married in a small ceremony with close family joining us. It was such a pleasure to declare our love in a non-threatening way that was about us, and not about those who attended.
Today, 190 days ’til 40, I am happy for weddings that are truly about the couple being married. If you get married, I hope your wedding will be this way.