Isn’t it wonderful when in our lives we are in the right place at the right time and are lucky enough to experience a serendipitous moment? I have had a few of these in my lifetime, and when I experience them I always feel so very fortunate and blessed.
Of course, the photo above is a wonderful example of a serendipitous moment. My partner, aunt, cousin and I were driving along the coast of Cape Town after we had just united at a local train station. We had just been making small talk about the fact that it was the beginning of whale season. There was a chance we would see whales during the week we were together spending time throughout Cape Town. Moments after we stopped speaking, my cousin piped up from the back seat, “Hey, there, is THAT a whale???” Sure enough, the photo above captured what we saw. It was the ONLY time throughout the ten-day trip that we saw a whale.
My youngest daughter is adopted from China. She comes from a remote region of China and when she was adopted she was part of the third group of children available for international adoption through the small orphanage in her region. Only about 20 children had been adopted from this specific orphanage this far. As I was processing through the airport as I began my journey to pick up my daughter in China, I was talking to a friend in line next to me. I was in an international airport in the middle east, where I was working at the time. The woman behind me in line tapped me on the shoulder, “I couldn’t help but overhear your conversation.” she said in a very thick Slavic accent. “I just adopted a daughter from China six weeks ago. I was here for three days on business and am anxious to get back home to her. Where is your daughter from?” I went on to explain that my daughter comes from a very remote region of China that she is probably not familiar with. To make a very long story short, her new daughter was from the same orphanage as mine, and was one of those first 20 children to be adopted out. We compared photos of our girls (in the same clothing and baby bouncers) and promised to remain in touch. We are now part of a group of over 300 families who have all adopted children from this remote region in China.
Both of these are amazing examples of when the universe lines up to provide us with a special gift. We are well aware that these moments are extraordinary and are to be cherished. I wonder what would have happened had my cousin not been looking out the window that day – we could have so easily missed the opportunity to see that gorgeous whale. What would have happened if the lady behind me did not feel comfortable breaking into the conversation of a stranger? We may have never exchanged stories, and she might not have joined our network of families with children from the same orphanage in China. These moments are not explainable and I believe they serve a great purpose – they remind us that the ways of the world are bigger than what we can understand or explain – and they remind us that the greatest joys can come in small moments when we least expect it.
Today, 316 days ’til 40, I will remind myself to be aware of the serendipitous moments that surround me. I believe there are more in my life than I recognize, and I strive to be alert enough to not let them pass me by.
~400daystil40
dogdaz
April 11, 2012 at 00:21
Absolutely agree that somedays things just line up as if by a grand plan. Very much enjoy your musings, and loved hearing about your daughter’s adoption.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:24
Thank you so much, dogdaz, I appreciate your compliment! 🙂
getbusyyall
April 11, 2012 at 00:30
As a friend of mine says, “Unbeknownst to us, the Universe is unfolding just as it should”.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:23
I love what your friend says! 😉
buckwheatsrisk
April 11, 2012 at 00:41
oh my goodness i love this! it is so true! so glad you met that lady and saw the whale!
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:23
Thank you, I was too! 🙂
becca3416
April 11, 2012 at 00:41
I really enjoy the consistency and messages of your blog. This one hit home for me. Thanks!
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:23
Thank you so much!
handustry
April 11, 2012 at 01:00
I think serendipitious moments happen, or we are conscious of them, when we live in the present, fully aware, in control of our ability to perceive. There must be a lot more of these moments just here, right now, but sadly we mostly live remembering the good ol’ days or regreting some action, or we live in hope or fear of the future.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:22
Yes, I agree – I often wonder how many of these moments I have lost when my mind was not able to be present…. my hope for my own future is to be more present and aware so these moments are captured, not lost.
Cathy
April 11, 2012 at 01:21
Moments like that really are a gift to be treasured! Lovely post again. 🙂
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:22
Thank you, Cathy!
bellissimom
April 11, 2012 at 02:18
I love your story about the adoption of your daughter! It is so great that you did that and what a small world to run into another loving soul in line who has done the same thing. So great!
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:21
Thank you! It really was an amazing moment (one of many along the journey!)
writerwannabe763
April 11, 2012 at 03:09
Not as spectacular as your moments…but ..I used to work with a woman for a few years the last place that I was employed until I went on disability in 1991. I didn’t socialize with her during those years ..just a working relationship
Then about 3 years ago she found me on Face Book and we started talking back and forth and found a rapport..then I went to visit her a few hours away from where I live which I had really never done before ….make a ‘friend’ and get to know her better.
To summarize during the week I went to visit her, we became aware of how much we had in common…especially the big ‘D’…depression. We validated each other so much and it brought us so close. She came to stay with me last year for a few days and we are on FB together and sometimes the phone when electronic messaging is not enough. She has confided in me even though she did not do so with others. We pray for each other with a constancy.
A new friendship was kindled from a previous “working relationship’.. She is my best friend!…Diane
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:21
Wow, that is wonderful! I LOVE it when opportunities like that arise – it is so great that facebook allowed the two of you to connect and create that special friendship after you were no longer working together. I have heard similar stories and it is always so wonderful to hear how these circumstances create amazing gifts in our lives.
Summer Moon
April 11, 2012 at 04:09
I love this! It’s moments like these that make me feel so blessed to be a part of this world. Thank you for sharing this. I enjoyed this post a lot. 🙂
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:19
Thank you – me too! 🙂
Anonymous
April 11, 2012 at 04:51
What a neat encounter! I completely know what you mean. I own my own business from standing in line at a MLB game. While buying a hot dog I overheard a conversation and interjected. With a hand shake and a business card exchange, ten years later I am still up and running. You just never know who you will meet, when, where and why but it may have a purpose. Glad you saw the whale too! Being mindful…thanks for the reminder!
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:19
What a great example of this reality at work – how wonderful that a moment like that turned into a career for you (I am sure that happens more often than we realize, when people are willing to be present in the moment and take advantage of all life has to offer).
artblablablablog
April 11, 2012 at 05:11
So true, beautiful post.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:18
Thanks.
ssgt leslie
April 11, 2012 at 05:13
amazing stories, thanks for sharing
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:18
Thank you!
oakritchie
April 11, 2012 at 05:40
Well stated. You very well may have renewed my vow to engage with others around me more actively. I am all too often listening to my mobile device, tinkering online on a tablet or just spacing out…thus missing out on all of that serendipity!!! Thank you!
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:45
You are welcome. Thank you too!
sahbinahvioletflynn
April 11, 2012 at 05:44
A goose bump moment. I always feel like serendipity is the Universe nudging us along conspiring to bring us to our highest good.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 05:44
Yes!
Swirling Turnip
April 11, 2012 at 05:56
Somedays life just gives you what you need. I am so glad you caught on enjoyed the moments. I think your daughter is a lucky that the universe brought you together. Thanks for sharing.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 16:09
Thanks for your comment! (I think I am luckier than my daughters!) 🙂
rabidmongoose
April 11, 2012 at 06:11
I’m curious if you see a difference between the whale event (which was a passive event for you) and the adoption event (which was an active event in that the stranger had to break in)?
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 16:07
I purposely used those to incidents because they were so different, but still show that you have to be open to finding those moments. 🙂
Leanne
April 11, 2012 at 07:47
I believe serendipitous moments and coincidences aren’t random occurrences, they’re Guidance and inspiration from the universe – it’s proof of the law of attraction – showing us that we truly are all connected and our thoughts really do have power to affect the world outside of us. The more conscious we become of the creative power of our thoughts, the more of those intuitive moments we have. The key is becoming aware of our thoughts – how often do we unconsciously think things like “what a crappy day!” or “I don’t have what it takes to get that promotion.”? Strange how we never see the connection between negative thoughts and our crappy day, but that, too, is a “coincidence” of creation!
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 16:06
Ah, such a good point! We can focus on the negative and breed negative as easily as we can be open to the wonderful positive moments – thanks for adding this to the conversation!
viveka
April 11, 2012 at 08:17
Love the story you’re sharing here … about your life .. about a moment that didn’t just pass you by – a moment that stayed with you – because you responded . Thanks for sharing.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 16:05
You are welcome! 🙂
The Quiet Borderline
April 11, 2012 at 10:27
Another great post. Always a pleasure to read.
You really do sound like such a special person.
The Quiet Borderline
http://quietbpd.wordpress.com/
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 16:04
Thanks!
Stuart Otway-Smith
April 11, 2012 at 13:17
Reblogged this on Smile if your sexy! and commented:
How may children have you adopted now, wow, you really are a blessing.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 16:03
I have two adopted children 🙂
Stuart Otway-Smith
April 11, 2012 at 16:06
Wonderful, you are so glorious!
Spider42
April 11, 2012 at 14:29
Thats the thing I guess, life is nothing but moments worth either remembering or learning from..
and such things are also why I wish people would be more inclined to, as the old saying goes “stop and smell the roses” now and again, because whether you believe in destiny or serendipity or chance or whatever, life’s strange and you never know what comes your way.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 16:02
Very true!
sued51
April 11, 2012 at 15:44
Great examples…I believe things happen for a reason; sometimes it seems we meet people who are important in our lives “by accident” but I believe it is by design.
400daystil40
April 11, 2012 at 16:02
I do too!
Maura
April 12, 2012 at 02:37
It’s true, and I see this over and over in my life – how things line up so curiously, with unfathomable good fortune or good results. For me, it is a basis of gratitude, because I see (especially over the past two years since my husband’s death) how challenges are offset by perfect support. I call that good fortune too.
400daystil40
April 13, 2012 at 02:36
Yes, I can relate to what you wrote…. So true.
sunfishyoga
April 13, 2012 at 01:39
I love those times you are thinking about someone, and then they call you or you bump into them when you’re shopping – loved the post!
400daystil40
April 13, 2012 at 02:20
Me too! I do that with several friends and relatives regularly.